So, as I mentioned before, Lizz and I got married on July 13th. We organized our wedding in less than 5 days for a budget of under $2,000 and managed to exceed our expectations in every way. So here’s our guide for how to do a wedding on the cheap in NYC:
- Keep your party small. Ten, twenty at the most (ours was 16 including us, the Reverend and his wife).
- Choose a public place for the ceremony. Take a risk and forgo the permit process. If your party is small and you don’t do fancy things like processions and music, you’re not likely to get hassled. *
- Keep it simple. No music (No musicians to pay. No permit issues. We got lucky and the Brooklyn Philharmonic played nearby.) No aisle, no procession, no alter or other fixtures.
- Don’t buy into the wedding gown & tux thing. I bought a new jacket. Lizz bought a new dress. We looked damn good.
- Eschew fancy catering or dinner. There is plenty of delicious, relatively cheap food and drink to be had in NYC, especially if you keep your party small.
- Have a sense of humor. It won’t be perfect, but any bumps smooth right over with a good laugh.
Of course, you should strive to make it special. We decided to start planning the wedding when the Reverend Billy confirmed he could do it, five days ahead. We’re fans of his activism and his message, and he did a great job with the ceremony. We held the wedding in a city park at sunset with an amazing view of the Brooklyn and Manhattan Bridges and downtown Manhattan. We got no permit (though permits for NYC parks are only $25). A friend of a friend took some great photos. From the park we walked to Grimaldi’s and stood in line for some of the best pizza in the world accompanied by wine and cannoli.
The biggest drawback to this approach is, if you’re as lucky as we are, you are certain to disappoint a good number of your family and friends who cannot come. Short notice and the fact that our families are not from the east coast helped us keep our list small. There were a large number of people we would have loved to have been there — but the debt we couldn’t afford to take on would have been even more regrettable than not having them there.
We had originally tried to plan a more traditional (but still “budget”) wedding, hoping to invite our families and more of our close friends. When we did the numbers, we realized anything over a certain number of people or with too many “guarantees” (weather, location, space, scripted ceremony, etc.) was just beyond our reach. If you’re staring down that path, I can tell you that we do not regret turning away and doing something different and memorable.
* Caveat: we were booted from the Fulton Ferry State Park, adjacent to the city park, for taking “professional” photos without an (expensive) permit.